3 Keys To Mental Wellness In A “Crazy” World
How recent is the last crisis you faced? Maybe it was personal crisis like the loss of a job or discovered infidelity, or maybe a friend who lost a loved one or a news headline that rocked your world. Whatever the crisis, I’m here to tell you that it’s natural to experience a desire to help others.
Lately, the headline news has delivered one earth-shattering blow after another. The barrage of atrocities in a very short period of time can have greater impact on some versus others. The stress is real, tensions are high, and the impact can bleed into many or all areas of life.
What do we do?
Recognize there are limitations to what you can handle.
An inability to handle things like someone else is no indicator of strength or weakness. It is your individual life, and how you respond to any or every traumatic event is completely unique to you.
Your experience and how it is managed can lead to greater personal health and the ability to help others with greater empathy and compassion. The world could use a lot more compassion. Keep in mind that you cannot most effectively lead someone where you have not first been. Resolve to overcome the disaster, and embrace destiny.
It is not realistic to impose an expectation that you should react in the same way someone else “seems” to react. The truth is that outwardly things may seem to be handled well while internally (emotionally and psychologically), the toll is radically different. Internal conflict creates invisible wounds, and too often they are ignored or dismissed as less significant than someone else’s external need. It is so much easier to focus on an outward need and hide what none else sees. The problem is that the toll it takes on the individual with the “invisible wound.” Our bodies are wired to heal, and the same goes for our hearts and minds. Denial only creates toxicity and contributes to degenerative health.
Self care is not selfish; it is you putting on the proverbial “oxygen mask” so that you can survive. You cannot expect to know what to do when you do not know. When it comes to instinct, we want to help those in need, sometimes to the point of neglecting our own selves. In order to help others, you must tend to personal wellness for the sake of effectiveness.
It is imperative that we seize educational opportunities about mental wellness. For far too long mental healing has been associated with a stigma of poor health or a mental break down. This is the result of neglect and ignorance. While it has gotten the bad wrap due to years of neglect and lack of education on how to prevent long term post traumatic stress (PTSD), “mental wellness” is actually a personal responsibility.
My passion to help people benefit and appreciate the value of mental wellness training derives from serving as a Traumatic Crisis Responder. The expertise I am hired for goes beyond education, certifications and skills; my life is living proof on how one can overcome and bring hope to those in need.
Conflict resolution empowers life transformation. It activates what is possible when you know what you need to in order to process pain and prevent what is manageable. The problem is lack of insight and education. The solutions are education and activation. All external conflict – whether racial tensions, challenges at work, or domestic dysfunction – has its roots in inner conflict. There is a great need to learn how to navigate towards better mental health and wellness. The benefits are better relationships, healthier individuals and stronger communities.
If I just ignore the stress, will it go away?
Neglect, whether it be intentional or the result of not knowing the value of preventative care, can lead to long term emotional, psychological and/or physical ailments. Be proactive. Your mental wellness stabilizes the ability to manage stress in catastrophic times and prevents a helpless spiral into PTSD. Currently seven to eight percent of the US population struggles with PTSD. Of that percentage, forty percent are male and sixty percent are female.